A friend recently introduced me to Arielle Ford, of the legendary Ford Sisters. Arielle recently sent me a copy of her book, The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life With the Law of Attraction. I’m not a big fan of The Law of Attraction, but I did take a look at her book with an open mind, and I have to say, it’s a good book! It’s very practical and experiential. It walks you through a very methodic, clear, and easy-to-follow set of exercises that help you open up mentally, emotionally, and spiritually to finding a life partner. It’s filled with much truth and love, and I do believe that for those looking for a lifetime partner, this book will certainly bring you one step closer to finding Mr. or Mrs. Right.
After taking a look at the book, I asked Arielle if I could share the first chapter with you, and she agreed. Below is a description of the book written by the publisher and a link to read the first chapter. If you’re looking to manifest the man or woman of your dreams, I recommend you check it out.
Publisher Description: Is it your dream to find a life-partner who will love, cherish and adore you? With the The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life With the Law of Attraction by Arielle Ford you will learn how to take control of your romantic destiny with prayers, rituals, and proven manifestation tools that will prepare your body, mind, spirit and home for the soulmate your heart truly desires. It works for men and women of all ages. It worked for Arielle, her 80-year-old mother-in-law, Peggy, and it can work for you!
Chapter One – Belief
Stefanie’s Story: Brokenhearted and Disbelieving
I fell madly in love with someone who I believed with all my heart was The One. We had been friends for ﬁ fteen years before we began dating, and we ﬁt together like hand and glove. He was an ambitious Hollywood producer, we were well matched in every way, and we had even started house shopping and discussing marriage. Then I found out he had been having an affair. My heart was so broken that I really thought it might stop beating. I had never cried so much over any breakup, because I really thought he was my soulmate. I decided then and there that all the good men were taken or at least not living in my city—maybe I needed to move? I had a hard time believing I would ever ﬁnd someone who could really see (and love) all sides of me: the serious career woman, the playful girl, and the tender lover inside of me. I had given up. [Stay tuned . . . this story has a very happy ending!]
Stefanie’s story echoes what many of us have felt at some point in our lives. After a few (or many) bad relationships, it’s so easy to shut down, give up, and stop believing that the right person is out there for us. Our hearts yearn to fall in love, but our minds insist it’s not possible, and we enter into a tug-ofwar with ourselves. It’s as if one part of us is screaming, “Yes! I deserve a great relationship!” while another part insists, “I’ll never ﬁ nd him or her.” When our beliefs contradict our desires, we experience an inner conﬂict that not only paralyzes us, but can actually prevent us from recognizing the possibilities for love that exist all around us.
The universal Law of Attraction states that we draw to us those people, events, and circumstances that match our inner state of being. In other words, we attract experiences that are consistent with our beliefs. If we believe that there is plenty of love in the world and we are worthy of giving and receiving that love, we will attract a different quality of relationships than someone who believes in scarcity or feels unworthy of happiness. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. If we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful, and fearful place, then eventually that will become our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soulmate is out there is a critical ﬁrst step in the formula for manifesting him or her into your life.
If you do not yet believe with 100 percent certainty that your soulmate is out there, you must begin to look for evidence that will make a believer out of you. When deep down in the core of your being you believe that your soulmate exists, there is no limit to the ways he or she can enter your life. Take for example my friend Trudy, who, while searching for the perfect cantaloupe, met her husband in the produce aisle of a Whole Foods market. Or Patricia, a former colleague, whose best friend practically had to drag her out of bed to go to a party, where she ended up meeting her future husband by the coat check. What about the experience of Gayle Seminara-Mandel, whose story you’ll read in a subsequent chapter? Sporting a post- facial blotchy face and sweatpants, she ended up working out next to her future husband on the exercise bikes at the gym where she found herself on a dateless New Year’s Eve. Sean Roach, whose story you will also read, was ﬂying back from a three-week trip to Australia, wondering if he would ever ﬁ nd the right woman to marry and start a family with. After an argument erupted in the aisle, he stood up to defend the ﬂ ight attendant from the harsh words of a rude passenger and found himself gazing into the eyes of his future wife. Do you think Englishman David Brown had any way of knowing he would one day wake up with a cell-phone number running through his head, send a text message to it, and end up striking up a friendship with the owner of the phone that would ultimately blossom into love?
The point is, it is not necessary for you to know how or where or when your soulmate will appear. Your only work right now is to begin to nurture the belief that he or she exists and that you will ﬁnd each other when the time is right. You also need to begin to dismantle some of the negative beliefs about yourself that you may have unknowingly collected over the years. For example, deep down inside, do you believe you are loveable? If you are reading this, then I am certain you are lovable. Why? Because lovable people always want more love in their lives. But if you believe you are not lovable, you must start to challenge that belief. I know many very attractive, successful, single people who have some very negative, limiting beliefs when it comes to ﬁnding their soulmates. Their list usually goes something like this:
I’m too old.
I’m too fat.
I’m too damaged.
I have too much baggage.
I’m not successful enough.
I’m too successful.
All the good ones are taken.
Nobody I am interested in would be interested in me.
These are just knee-jerk excuses that keep us stuck. There is plenty of evidence that love is available to everyone regardless of age, weight, income, or any of the other factors that we believe limit us. Regardless of our personal histories in relationships, we can choose to adopt the belief that everything we’ve been through has been but preparation for ﬁ nding our true love. My friend Linda Sivertsen, after grieving the end of her nineteen-year marriage at the age of forty-three, is living proof that believing the love you desire exists is the ﬁ rst essential step to drawing it into your life.
Linda’s Story: The Second-Chances Prophetic Treasure Map
It was springtime, and things had never seemed better between my husband and me. Was it the beautiful weather or the passing of time that was mellowing my blustery alpha male? He no longer seemed so easily angered or quick to ﬁnd fault with me. He no longer yelled or called me names or threatened to leave at the smallest disagreement—well, not that often anyway. I’ve read that increases in estrogen and decreases in testosterone have a calming effect on men as they get older. Thank you, middle age. If harmony is what you bring, I’m happy to trade in the roller-coaster highs and lows for a few wrinkles.
Still, deep down I was sad I had gone my entire adult life longing to know what it would be like living in a partnership without emotional walls or eggshells to walk on. I had longed to stand before my beloved, our pure, open hearts holding space for one another. But I had concluded that this vulnerable kind of love just wasn’t in the cards for me, reasoning that this is what you get when you marry a stranger, as I had, after only eight weeks of dating. Could I really have expected an easy road? But then again, is life easy for anyone?
Despite too many hard times to count, we had built a good life. He called me his best friend, and we laughed a lot, had many things in common, and adored our son, which made our lack of passion easier to get my head around. Our views on parenting were vastly different and a source of great pain for us both, but our son was almost off to college, and we’d ﬁ nally have the time and money to travel and get to know each other outside of the stress of parenting. Although I had doubts about our potential, maybe with his sudden peacefulness, new levels of closeness and intimacy were possible? Maybe there was a way we could open up to the kind of love I hoped in my heart was possible between two people committed to each other?
But three days before our nineteenth anniversary, I discovered the source of my husband’s joy—he was having an affair with a woman in another state with two young children who “needed” him and made him feel alive. Their bond was all he needed to walk away from me, from us, and soon move twelve hundred miles away. In an instant, my plans, my dreams, our potential were gone. As he ran toward his bright, shiny future, I was left in the fetal position, grieving the loss of my family (and possibly my home) and trying to deliver on the biggest work deadlines of my life while getting almost no sleep for months on end. The scariest part? Trying to hold up our teenage son, who felt that a nuke had just been detonated in our living room.
Grieving became my daily practice. Losing both of my parents in the previous decade had taught me how to do that. Neighbors saw me walking my dogs, tears streaming down my face. I knew that time would only exaggerate the pain if I didn’t get all the dark, lumpy, crappy bits from my heart and mind up and out. I’d scream into pillows and cry so hard I could barely ﬁnd the energy to drag myself up off the ground. I knew if I didn’t purge this man, his betrayal, and our lost life from every possible ﬁber of my being, I’d be left emotionally handicapped—with a fraction of my self-esteem—wholly in danger of being forever jaded toward men, love, and the very institution of marriage I so believed in.
But within four or ﬁve months, I knew something else to be true as well. My ex had freed me. He had done me a favor because there was big love for me out there—the kind I had always hoped could happen for me. I could feel it, and I started thanking God for the woman who had taken my ex’s affections so I could be free. My sister joked that we should send her ﬂowers because the peace I was starting to feel all by myself was beyond the joy I had ever felt being married.
Despite the fact that I was starting to very much enjoy the quiet of being alone, I could feel that “he,” my soulmate, was close by and would be a welcome complement to the happiness I was already feeling. I knew he would fulﬁll needs within me that were never met in my marriage (as, I’m sure, my ex-husband’s girlfriend fulﬁlled for him). “I feel someone very special coming,” I told my therapist, “but I’m not ready. I know I need a lot of time to heal.” “Linda,” she answered. “You have so much love to give. My sense is that you’ve been ready for a long time. Maybe even years.” When friends told me I shouldn’t date seriously for a year, my therapist’s words helped bolster my inner knowing. I didn’t care what anyone said. I was in no mood to lose many months or years keeping myself safe because of someone else’s idea of how I should recover from this loss. If Big love was on its way, I wasn’t going to let anything stop Mr. Big from entering my world. I would clean up my life and make the space for him to curl up in the lap of what I knew I still had left to give.
I joined a gym. I started going out with my girlfriends. I put myself out there. I began dating casually. A lot. I wasn’t remotely ready to be physically intimate with anyone, other than a few kisses, and I didn’t bring anyone home to meet my son. It was mostly light and easy, breezy friendships with men who
were helping me remember how to ﬂirt and open myself up. But beneath the casualness and sometimes seeming ridiculous futility of it all (after all, I was out there dating—hello?!), I was looking for my partner with full intention. I would imagine him standing behind me, holding me in his arms and kissing the back of my neck. I could feel him as if he were in the ﬂ esh. Each day, he was getting closer and closer—I had no doubt—which made it somewhat hard not being obsessed with how I would recognize him when he arrived. So I decided to be proactive.
The next day, my dear friend Arielle Ford and her husband, Brian (both had been on “Team Linda” after my separation, sending me uplifting music and calling regularly with their cheerleading), sent me the Soulmate Kit, with details about how to make the most powerful Treasure Map for attracting one’s soulmate. I couldn’t wait to get started, to further clarify the image of what having him in my life would look like.
Years ago I had made several such maps, one for a home I’d hoped to manifest (which happened, with remarkable likeness) and one for my writing career (also with striking results). In fact, I went a little nuts back then with the scissors and had cut out so many extra words and images that I’d put hundreds of them in a box ready for another time. I had to ﬁnd that box! Sure enough, it was tucked away in the back of a closet.
I painted a red canvas and spent hours going through magazines and searching through my previous cutouts for the perfect ones. I would make this map a work of art—simple and beautiful—and include only those words and images that conjured the feelings I wanted to create—words like“bliss,” “authentic,” “responsible,” “man at his best,” “easy on the eyes,” “best place in the Universe” (referring to four bare feet sticking out of the covers at the end of a bed), and “great minds think alike.”
Then I found something strange while going through the box: a large cutout of a name—CHRIS—in white writing on a blue background. That was odd. How did that name get there? I was sure I’d never cut out a name other than my own or my husband’s before. Hmmm. This was crazy to me, because I had just had an amazing date with a man named Chris the previous week. But he was so busy transitioning into a different aspect of his work, and we hadn’t connected about another date yet. I’d been hoping he would call but was regretfully becoming resigned to the fact that he might not. Could this be a sign? God, I hoped so. I was deﬁnitely more attracted to him than any of the other men I’d dated (or, truthfully, anyone I’d met or seen out in the world during my nineteen years of marriage).
The fact that I had cut out Chris’s name several years before nagged at me for a few hours. It wasn’t small either—much larger than most all the other cutouts. (I’d also been wearing a Saint Christopher medal around my neck for the past year—something I bought myself as a gift before my husband left—which made the CHRIS cutout seem all that much more auspicious.) Finally, the only explanation I could come up with was that I had probably seen the word “CHRISTMAS” in a magazine at one time and cut it out for my best friend, Diane, who’s married to a Chris, in case I ever made her a Treasure Map. The only thing was, I had never made her one, had never planned to make her one, and doubted I ever would.
I worked on my soulmate Treasure Map in my kitchen for several days, perfecting it until it felt totally “cooked.” One Tuesday afternoon, I carried it upstairs to my bedroom, nailed a nail into the wall, and hung my creation across from my bed. I said a little prayer that it would bring my ideal man into my world, touching each image on the map and then letting it go, trying to trust in my map’s inherent magic.
That same evening, Chris called and said he had a headache from a very stressful day at work and was just going to get in the car and go for a ride. “Why don’t you drive out to my house?” I said, without any concern that it was already late, that I lived forty minutes away, or about the “rules” women banter about for insisting men call ahead of time for a proper date. “Forget rules!” I thought. “I’m forty-three years old and aching to see this guy.
Chris came over, I fed him leftovers, and we hit it off so thoroughly that evening that we’ve been practically inseparable ever since. My handsome man and I are now very much in love. My divorce is weeks away from being ﬁnal, and he and I talk frequently about sharing our lives together. When he saw my Treasure Map for the ﬁrst time, he seemed sort of mesmerized by it, scanning the images. A few weeks later, while he was again looking at the map, I was a little nervous but shared the story about his name being in the box. “Why don’t you put it on the board?” he said. “Really? Are you sure? Because that’s a big step,” I said, laughing. The next day, I showed him the cutout of his name and said, “Where do you want me to put it?” He looked at my Treasure Map and told me to paste it in the section I had created on marriage. I looked at him to see if he was teasing, but he just smiled and told me again to paste it there. So I did. Happily.
Time will tell if Chris and I will indeed get married and end up together for the rest of our lives. I can’t imagine that not being the case. He’s everything I asked for on the map, and then some. But all sappiness aside, the way I see it, being together forever is not really the point. After all, I married my husband, thinking we would be life partners, as in always together until death do us part (or longer), but life is long, and people change and evolve. Regardless, the fun, passion, and gentleness that Chris has already brought into my life feel so deep and profoundly healing that it’s as if he has helped wash away a world of pain. And his love has helped me feel safe enough to establish good communications with my ex, both for the sake of our son and to honor the good we did share over so many years.
Like the images and words outlined on my map, Chris looks at me in a way that makes me feel loved, adored, admired, and deeply desired. And in giving him that same love and admiration, I am feeling whole and in partnership in a way I’ve never known. Now when I’m working in the kitchen or brushing my teeth, he often walks up behind me, wraps me in his arms, and kisses the back of my neck. For me, it just doesn’t get any better than that.
Following the devastating breakup of her marriage, Linda could have allowed her life to be governed by her old belief that “ﬁ nding real love is not in the cards for me.” Instead, she chose to believe that “bad” things happen for good reasons—usually to clear out space for the good that is on its way. I designed the following feelingization to support you in releasing old, limiting beliefs about yourself, others, and the world, that may be preventing you from attracting the love you desire. Remember, you can read this to yourself or download it at http://www .soulmatesecret.com/audio and listen to it with your eyes closed.
Feelingization: Releasing Old Beliefs
Begin by taking a moment to remember your worst romantic encounters—the people who really weren’t kind and loving; the ones you’d like to forget; the ones who hurt you the most, who betrayed your trust, who caused your heart to shut down.
Now imagine these past lovers are all standing in front of you. Allow yourself to feel the pain they caused you in the past. Take a moment to ask yourself what you must have believed about yourself to tolerate this kind of behavior. Did you believe you didn’t deserve any better? That you had no right to ask for more? That you weren’t lovable?
Now, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Am I willing to release these old beliefs?” Notice what your answer is, and if you are really ready to let them go, imagine gathering all the old, painful feelings and beliefs and limitations and mentally projecting them onto all your old lovers, who are still standing before you. Just imagine dumping all those old painful feelings back onto those ex-lovers. Take a moment to notice how that feels.
Now imagine you have an aerosol can—like a spray-paint can—in your hand. See yourself pointing it at those ex-lovers. In a moment, you’re going to press the trigger and spray the can, and as you do, all those people and all those painful memories are going to become globbed together inside a big latex bubble.
Take a moment and relish the feeling of spraying that paint, congealing every one of those negative memories, experiences, and beliefs together into a single bubble. They are now separate from you, removed from you. Take a deep breath and enjoy the freedom of that. Now imagine that in your left hand you are holding a large, sharp needle. Perhaps a smile comes across your face just imagining what I’m about to ask you to do. That’s right, when you are ready, take the needle and puncture that latex bubble, watching it explode and disappear into thin air. These people are now gone from your consciousness . . . and with them the painful feelings, beliefs, and experiences of the past. Feel what it feels like to no longer carry the burden of your past with you. Feel the freedom, the new possibilities, the relief.
Take a deep breath, and notice what arises when I ask you this question:
What would you have to believe about yourself in order to magnetize your soulmate into your life?
Would you have to believe and know you are lovable? That you are deserving? That you are a fabulous catch?
Believe and know deep in your heart that The One is out there for you, that you deserve to have your desires fulﬁlled, and that you deserve to give and receive love. And if you don’t quite believe it today, see if you can, in this moment, believe that The One is on the way and that your knowingness is growing daily.
Take this time to think about all the qualities you have to offer, and in case you are forgetting what those are, I’d like to remind you: it’s the love you give and share, the kindness and warmth you exude—not to mention all your other talents.
- You were born to be loved, cherished, and adored.
- You were born to be loved, cherished, and adored.
- You were born to be loved, cherished, and adored.
Repeat this to yourself seven times, allowing it to penetrate deeply into your heart.
Ultimately, it’s not your job to know HOW your soulmate is going to appear. It’s only your job to be ready, willing, and open to receive your soulmate’s love. You don’t exactly know where air or water come from, but you totally believe they are there for you. As a human being, you know that air and water are part of your divine inheritance. No matter what mistakes you have made in the past, you are still going to wake up every day and have access to air and water. The same is true for love. It’s there for you. It’s always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are, and once you do, the Universe will bring you more of it. In other words, there is nothing for you to do; there is only a way for you to be. Be the loving person you are; live in the knowingness that you deserve to have a loving, committed relationship; and savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive.
Believing that your soulmate exists, that you are deserving of him or her, and that the Universe is skillfully orchestrating your meeting is the basis for applying the next part of the formula—to generate a vision of yourself and your life where these beliefs are your daily reality.
Treasure Mapping for Love
Treasure mapping is a powerful tool for manifestation, because it helps you to both intuitively and objectively clarify what your heart is yearning to experience. A Treasure Map acts as a visual reminder of the life you are committed to creating. I have been making Treasure Maps for years, and it’s uncanny how many of the images and ideas that I mapped have manifested in my actual life. Once, after Brian and I had just found out we would need to move within nine months, I made a Treasure Map that included a picture of a bedroom with an ocean view we found particularly appealing. When it was time to go house hunting, the very ﬁrst home we saw had a master bedroom with this same view, the same carpet, and the same wooden frame around the windows. It was exactly what we had imagined. This is the power of Treasure Mapping.
You can make your Treasure Map 100 percent focused on attracting your soulmate, or you can separate it into four life areas:
1 love & relationship
2 health & ﬁ tness
3 career & money
4 spiritual & emotional fulﬁllment
To create your Treasure Map, you will need:
- a good-sized piece of poster board or foam board
- a stack of your favorite magazines that reﬂ ect your unique interests and taste
- a glue stick and a pair of scissors
- several hours to devote to this project
Flip through the magazines and cut out images, words, and photographs that appeal to you. Try not to think too hard about the words and images you’re selecting, but rather trust your gut feeling about what you ﬁnd attractive. Make sure to include at least one photo or image of a loving couple—it could be as simple as two people walking on the beach hand in hand. When selecting these images, you are looking to evoke a feeling as opposed to manifesting the models in the photos, so look for images that convey the feeling you desire more than a particular face. Images that represent love, romance, commitment, and joy are all good. If marrying your soulmate is what you desire, feel free to add engagement rings, wedding rings, wedding cakes, or anything else that is a symbol of marriage or commitment. You
should also include a photo of yourself looking really happy, and surround that image with words that express your positive beliefs about ﬁnding love. You want your Treasure Map to afﬁrm that you are loved, cherished, and adored by your perfect partner.
I have heard about so many incredible connections unfolding as a result of people using the Treasure Mapping process. On the surface it seems unbelievable or miraculous, but I now understand that Treasure Mapping just helps to reveal attributes that are important to you in a partner, which you may not be consciously aware of. Looking at your map daily reminds you of your deeper values and also helps you to begin noticing them where you may have missed them before. Consider the success my friend Ken Foster had with this process.
Ken’s Story: Creating a Map of Love
Many years ago I was in a relationship that looked good from a distance. All our friends thought we were perfect together, but in truth our relationship felt lonely and painful. Rather than supporting one another’s growth, we seemed to feed off each other’s weaknesses, and we experienced major dramas almost daily. I knew I deserved to have a great relationship—one that nurtured my soul and enlivened my spirit—but for the moment I was feeling stuck and depressed. I wanted out, but I didn’t
want to run from another bad relationship. I wanted to move toward a great one.
It was during this time that I began working with a teacher who assured me I could have whatever I wanted in life if I learned to use the power of my mind. This teacher suggested that if I wanted to have a great relationship, I would have to change some of my core beliefs about how the Universe works. She told me that whatever I was picturing on the inside of my mind was going to show up on the outside, because of something called the Law of Attraction. My assignment was to get clear about the exact kind of relationship I wanted and then have faith that it would actually show up for me. I was a little skeptical, but I was also ready for a change, so I decided to give it a try.
I put together a dream board that would serve as a visual reminder of what I wanted to manifest in my life—and of course I was looking to manifest the woman who would one day be my wife. While ﬂipping through a magazine, I was struck by a picture of a brunette relaxing in a tropical setting, her head tilted back, and aqua blue water ﬂowing over her head. Her eyes were partially open, and in her slight smile I could detect a look of ecstasy. Gazing at this picture, I felt I was getting a sneak peek at my actual soulmate. I knew she would be beautiful, deeply spiritual, healthy, nurturing, kindhearted, loving, and loyal.
As a result of creating my dream board, I became very clear about what the nonnegotiable characteristics and behaviors of my next partner would be. But I still wasn’t clear about what I needed to embrace inside of me for my soulmate to appear. One day while I was meditating on my dream board, I heard a small, quiet voice inside of me say, “Live with certainty.” At ﬁ rst I didn’t know what that meant, but then I started to understand. I had been living my life with so much doubt—I doubted I would attract the right partner; I doubted my abilities to be a good provider; I doubted my spiritual path; I doubted I could remain married; I doubted that the dream board would work. I had so many doubts, and one day it dawned on me that this was exactly the reason I was stuck. The woman I was meant to attract was no match for the doubts I had allowed to run rampant in my mind.
In that instant I resolved to stop living my life from a place of doubt. I consciously and deliberately renewed my faith in every way I could: I focused on my strengths, and to the best of my ability, I lived from a place of certainty, trusting and following the impulses I received from within.
Within one week of making that decision, Judy became visible to me. I say she became visible because we had actually met several years earlier—at the Shared Vision luncheon my teacher took me to! Over the years we had become friends, but my eyes were so clouded with doubt and uncertainty that I could not see who she really was. I asked Judy to marry me after we had dated for just a month. We spent our honeymoon on Kauai, and one day as we were swimming together in a tropical pool, I noticed a special rock formation where the aquamarine water was ﬂ owing through. I asked Judy to lean back under the waterfall so I could take a picture, and I caught a glimpse of the magic of the Universe. When we got the pictures back, I was speechless. The picture I took that day was the exact picture from my dream board: the brunette in the bathing suit with long hair, being caressed by a waterfall, with the look of ecstasy that had so captivated me. Only this time she wasn’t a dream; she was my wife. Today we live what most would consider a dream life in San Diego, California. We have been married for nine years, and it keeps getting better and better.
Once you’ve created your Treasure Map, I would suggest you keep it in a place where you can look at it daily but slide it under the bed or in a closet when company shows up. You don’t need anyone else’s opinions or energy projected onto your dreams and commitments. Your Treasure Map is just for you. I like to set up my Treasure Map as an altar with candles, fresh ﬂ owers, and spiritual icons nearby to bless it. You can also place it in the relationship corner of your bedroom (more about this in chapter 3) as a reminder of all you have to offer and all you are ready to receive.
Remember, what you believe to be true about yourself in the innermost recesses of your heart and mind is what gets mirrored back to you through your external circumstances. This is incredibly good news! Because while you may have justiﬁ ed the belief that you are only talented enough to attract a certain amount of money or only organized enough to accomplish a certain number of daily tasks, there is virtually no limit or worldly barometer that can measure your inner worth. You are inherently lovable, and the moment you start believing that with all your heart and mind, you will begin to see evidence of it all around you. Now is the time to see yourself as you want your beloved to see you and to treat yourself as you would have him or her treat you. You wouldn’t long to ﬁnd true love unless you were capable of being such a lover.