Lately, there have been so many earth events that have caused many to feel pain and suffering, almost one right after the other. Not only is the earth having these major events, but many people on a personal level are experiencing stress, pain, suffering and depression. Why does it seem to be such a worldwide occurrence lately? How much more can Earth handle, you might ask?
A Course in Miracles teaches that this life experience is an “illusion,” that we simply need to forgive the thought that any of this is real and basically deny our experience of this human form. There are many New Thought systems that tell us to not think about the pain and suffering, and use positive affirmations to change our experience. This is all good and fine, but to me it’s like putting a bandaid on a deep wound and denying that it’s infected.
The Truth is, we are all having a personal opportunity and even a global opportunity for major healing. But how do we heal our pain and suffering when so many are hurting and events keep happening that cause us to feel pain and stress and worry and depression?
Spirit is all Love, and the most loving thing we can do as individuals and as a world is to let our emotions exist—not to deny them, but to be with them and let them express. This is unconditional love: to allow something to exist without judgment, without feeling like we have to do anything or deny anything. Just to allow what we’re feeling, whether it’s a broken heart, a deep sadness over the loss of a loved one, fear of the future… whatever it is, the most loving thing we can do is to feel it, to cry tears that have been repressed, to cleanse ourselves of pain we have been holding inside for years, perhaps even for lifetimes. It is not practical to think that we can just say “Life is good!” and yet stuff a feeling of pain. That feeling will only occur again until we have taken the opportunity to be with it, allow it to exist, and then move forward when we are ready.
Here’s a process that will get energy flowing throughout to allow these deeply repressed feelings and emotions to begin to bubble up (and remember, we don’t have to feel every emotion all at once; we can choose!):
Allow yourself some uninterrupted time where you feel safe in your space and can just be in the moment. Close your eyes and get comfortable, and begin to feel your thoughts going through your mind, allowing them to float through, and reach for a feeling of compassion or peace or kindness to extend to your thoughts. You don’t have to love your thoughts, but just bless each one as it arises in your mind.
Then, as you feel more peaceful, begin to let a feeling or emotion float up to the surface of your awareness. This could be pain, anger, frustration, sadness or grief. Name it, whatever it is, and allow it to bubble up to the surface of your awareness. Be with it, give yourself permission to feel it, let the tears flow if they want to, scream if you need to, just express it fully until it begins to settle down. Once you feel it has been fully expressed in that space in time, then sit with it a while until you feel comfortable enough to imagine yourself putting your arms around that emotion and just holding it for a while, being with it, comforting it. Even thank it for expressing and existing, for it has only given your heart a chance to open.
Then imagine yourself holding its hand and walking towards the most beautiful sunset filled with an incredible array of colors. And when and if you’re ready, imagine pausing for a moment to say goodbye. Then allow this new friend to walk off into the beautiful sunset with feelings of love towards it. Only move in this direction when you authentically feel that you can befriend that emotion. If this seems difficult, allow yourself more time, even days or weeks, and once each emotion is ready to be released, choose a different one. And always be gentle with yourself.
Why are so many painful things occurring on both the personal and the global level? We cannot heal what we don’t allow to express. These are the times to begin our personal as well as collective joining and healing. These are Holy times, as we move deeper into a loving relationship with everything that exists.