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A Guide to Love, God, Prayer, Meditation, & Peace Within You—Right Now

Does God Want Me to Stay Single?


Pamela: “I’m a 35-year-old female and I have been single most of my life. I would consider myself good looking, intelligent, kind, educated, so I don’t understand why I’m not with anyone? Sometimes I ask myself if God wants me to stay single. I am a bit confused. How shall I find out what God’s will is for me in this matter?”

The Voice for Love: “Beloved one, dear child of God, thank you for having the courage to ask this question for I know this is very important to you.

“I will start by telling you that God wants nothing, for God IS all things and the very fabric of His Being is Love. So please do not think that God wants something for you other than your absolute contentment into what you are: Love. Now, for a lot of people, when one seeks a romantic partnership with another, it is because they feel they cannot experience themselves AS LOVE and they must therefore seek it in another. Please contemplate what I have just said here for your being understands this better than most. You are indeed a beautiful being and your kindness radiates on all that cross your path.

“You harbor mixed feelings about being in a relationship with a man, as you have received mixed messages about men and relationships while growing up. This also needs to be contemplated – without any judgment – and released into forgiveness so that you may position yourself firmly in regard to what you desire in a relationship. You will ALWAYS attract exactly what you believe and what you ‘vibrate’, beloved one. That IS the law of attraction, that like attracts like. This is why I am suggesting that you examine and embrace your beliefs, your early experiences, your contradictory emotions about men and relationships. Make peace with this.

“Remain seated into what you truly want even though you may feel you are crossing a desert and there is a sand storm. Have faith even if you can’t see ahead with your eyes. Look with your heart. The more you become the LOVE that you are – by contemplating, accepting and embracing your fears and contradictions – the easier it will be for you to attract a mate that matches this level of Love, a mate that shares his life with yours in equality, giving you the freedom and encouragement you need to feel good in a relationship. If you can align yourself with what you truly want, without feeling you must compromise, this life partner will show up for you.

“I love you as you are, perfect child of God.”

  • MaryAnnSwan

    Caroline, I love your posting here. I often receive questions of this nature from people and my Holy Spirit Voice gives out a similar message about looking at core beliefs about relationship and about really living from a place of Self Love. Complete, perfect and whole in every moment. I just love the way you expressed this. 

  • Kinleighrose

    WOW… this speaks to me too.  God and Love are so good and giving, we just need to let go of the past and go with the flow of Love.

  • RDHawke88

    I love being single so much and I’m so happy that I can’t imagine “god” doesn’t want me to be here! ;D

  • eric

    God has given us the choice to choose to be single or not.

  • So Very True

    well the way that i look at it, God is certainly to blame for many of us that are alone and single today, and why on earth would we ever blame ourselves since there are many of us still looking to have someone to share our life with?