With a new year come new resolutions to change and better ourselves. Yet we more often fall short of those resolutions than fulfill them. So I asked Holy Spirit, how can I love myself when I’m not meeting any of my expectations? Here is the message I received:
“Dearest One, you are eternally loved and precious in My eyes.
“Just rest in that thought. You are loved without condition — whether you do anything at all, much less whether you ‘get it right.’ You may be encountering a period of frustration right now, dashed hopes and unmet expectations of yourself and others, and so you are feeling discouraged and unhappy with yourself.
“Remember this: each day you set high goals for your being and doing. You make the intention to be tolerant, compassionate, and accepting, to complete this task or that task. Your intentions are pure and your efforts are in earnest, yet you lose steam when you begin to judge yourself as not enough — not good enough, not quick enough, not productive enough, not successful enough.
“Enough, My child! Right now, be still. Slow down and take three deep breaths. Appreciate your very being. You are the child of the Most High God; you are The Beloved. If you could only see yourself as I see you! Savor the good in your being and doing, in your wanting and hoping and dreaming. Reconsider how quick you are to judge yourself against some arbitrary measuring stick, your A-B-C-D-E grading system, your pass-or-fail, black-or-white thinking.
“Imagine yourself as your own beloved child, one you wish to gather up in your arms, hold close and love dearly. That child need not do anything. That child is heart of your heart. That child is a gift of the Universe. And you are the steward who cares for that child, as your gift to the Universe.
“Consider how beautiful, good and precious that child is.
“Now, remember that feeling — the warmth, depth, breadth, and peace of it. Your love for that child is the same unqualified love you can have for yourself at any moment, on your good and not so good days. Be still and be with the image, idea and feeling of that wonderful child. Be still and know the truth. Beam with the joy this child within gives you every day of your life. Rejoice in the beauty, innocence, and yearning of that child. That beloved child is You.
“Remember this loving moment and return to this feeling and image of holding your beloved child whenever you are tempted to disapprove of yourself. Ease your mind. Relax your hold on having to judge. Release that tension. Revel in the delight you, yourself, are in the world just by being yourself. If that’s a stretch now, consider someone you love and recall the delight you feel when you are with them. Over time you will grow to enjoy that delight in your own being.
“Put away the measuring stick and punishing rod. Embrace yourself. Comfort yourself. And as you love yourself more easily and deeply, you will love Me and others more easily and deeply as well.”